
"I used to talk this guy on social media ,turned us into situationship...having sexualconvo but then after few days my friend call me and told me that I'm talking to his bf ( obv. Idk anything about their relationship ) I wanted to talk to someone because just one month back my bf cheated on me with my high-school friend and then I met this guy ,but when I get to know about him ....I asked him to broke up but he was a psycho and he begged me not to leave him and i got manipulated because I started falling for him , days passed and it was my "first time " he knew since day 01 that I never do it . So forced me and I said no but he didn't stop and then after we had physical rlsp he left me after a week .....there was a twist - he used to say that we both studied together in 5 grade . I mean wowww . Now I never ever wanted to see his face"
'First time' and 'cheated' seem to echo your deepest fears and the rawest pain. It’s okay to feel the weight of 'never ever wanting to see his face'.
Wala pang mga komento.
Isang gabay na nakabase sa sikolohiya para sa pagdaan sa sugat ng attachment at muling pagbuo ng panloob na integridad. Alamin kung paano magluksa nang hindi ginagawang romantiko ang sugat, patahimikin ang iyong nervous system, at bawiin ang sarili na mas malaki kaysa sa relasyon.
Ang pinaka-nag-uunahang mga pagsisisi ay madalas na hindi ang mga salitang isinigaw natin sa galit, kundi ang mga salitang nilunok natin sa takot.
Ang pagsisisi ay madalas na tinitingnan bilang isang negatibong emosyon, ngunit iminumungkahi ng mga sikolohista na ito ay maaaring ang ating pinakamakapangyarihang tool para sa personal na paglago.

"Dopo una vita passata a soccombere a mio padre, mi pento di non avergli detto quanto mi ha fatto male, quando ancora potevo farlo. Lui stava morendo di cancro, e io non riuscivo a fare altro che pensare a quanto non riuscissi a stargli emotivamente vicino, perché offuscata dalla rabbia. Il senso di sacrificio a cui mi ha abituata fin da piccola mi ha fatto essere lì col corpo, e sentire in colpa dopo, come se non fossi stata una buona figlia. Da quando se ne è andato, tutto il dolore è rimasto a me. Che me ne faccio, però?"
Sembra che tu abbia ancora un sacco di sentimenti contrastanti dentro di te, e che non sia facile per te elaborare il dolore e la rabbia.

"I wish I just went for it instead of choosing to do another thing. I felt like what happened was such a wasted opportunity. I initially wanted to be a part of a specific org, and I had a specific position in mind for it. When it was election day, I was elected for a position I had the year before but I rejected it because I wanted a different position. Turns out, the position I wanted was removed and it was somehow given to the position I rejected, I REGRET NOT STANDING UP AT THE TIME BECAUSE THAT WAS ALL I HAD TO DO. I should've just taken it instead of taking a blind turn. I am now haunted by my stupidity and it keeps going to my mind and I can't stop thinking about it no matter how much I try to. It bothers me so much, because there is now a lot of opportunity I am not going to get because I wasn't able to get what I wanted. And I never wanted to be in this position. I only wanted to get the other thing but now I can't because my friend is the elected officer for that position and I cant change this anymore not unless some miracle happens"
It sounds like a tough lesson you learned the hard way. The regret is a reminder of the choices we make.